Questions/answers to share for a ‘deeper connection’:

The Experimental Generation of Interpersonal Closeness, is a study in which the concept of self-disclosure helps us form deeper connections, and is led by Arthur Aron, a scientist at State University of New York at Stony Brook. The questions I’ve itemized below come from this study; I received them through my month-long Healthy-Habits Well Challenge by the New York Times.

I hope you participate by writing a post and ping me back or using the comments section of my post or just answer them for yourself…for fun.

  1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?
  2. What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?
  3. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
  4. Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why not do it?
  5. What do you value most in a friendship?

And…I’m going to include this last one also despite the atmosphere:

  1. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?

Some prompt questions:

I thought I’d try to deviate from the norm of late and attempt to get some readers thinking about something different. I’m not very imaginative so I probably can’t compete with other bloggers who come up with some interesting questions and prompts but I’m going to try.

  1. Do you believe in a ‘sixth sense’ – otherwise known as “intuition” or “gut instinct”, why or why not and, if ‘yes’, will you write about an experience?
  2. Do you believe there is truly such a thing as “a self-made man/woman”? Give an example of why or why not.
  3. Do you have a Bucket List, if not, why, and if so, what are some things on it?
  4. Do you believe in astrology; if so, how is this a part of your daily life?

If you’d like to participate you may:

  1. write a post and ping-back here, or
  2. answer in the comment section

Thank you in advance and I hope you all are making the most of this time in history to be a positive influence or example for others to observe. If you’d like to share an experience in the comments, I’d love to read it.


guns are being hoarded and the fed-gov is hoarding medical supplies

True or False?

There’s an increase in the number of gun sales….I presume it’s the same people who are hoarding food = they need the guns to protect their stash when the rest of us have no basic needs and we start breaking and entering to steel from those who do have.

And why is this probably all okay?

Well, the federal government is now buying up all medical supplies including PPE while simultaneously telling state governments to ‘find your own supplies.’

And how can I be reasonably sure that this is true?

We have a leader that brags about how he molests women and, not surprisingly, monkey see, monkey do, there’s a huge uptick in citizens doing exactly the same thing. He claims he’s ‘just smart’ when he admits that he doesn’t pay taxes. He gives breaks to the already wealthy and penalizes the working class by increasing theirs.

For any one who isn’t yet realizing that YOU ARE ON YOUR OWN in this country, Donald only helps his close friends and family, you’ll perhaps be a little more enlightened when it’s your child, spouse, parents, close friends in need of medical help and there isn’t any – Because our government takes care of themselves first and foremost. All the survivors of the pandemic, when we finally are straggling out from our homes emaciated and bewildered in this new landscape, will be heading back to work – for the government. That’s what we are now. Property of the government to do with as they please. And if we all resort to killing each other, stealing from each other – so be it. No skin off their noses. The remainder will have no choice but to head back into the 21st century’s version of slavery.

Or maybe I’m just getting sun-stroke on this beautiful day.

nothing new here…keep moving

This is a stream of consciousness, woo-woo talk that I am just exercising – trying to get some thoughts out of my head.

I picked up a book about physics which has always interested me but I fail to get the math right even when I (think) I understand the concepts. Anyway…Gary Zukav’s book, The Dancing Wu Li Masters, is a non-fiction, winner of the American Book Award that he claims is a book about physics that even the lay-person can understand. I start reading but my mind returns to….

a live inspirational talk that Laila Ali gave about ‘doing the work’ and setting your intentions and taking care of yourself. It was inspiring as I ambled along in the woods with my dogs. I’m feeling my almost-57 years and, although I want to be and feel better physically, I am not ready yet to do the work. I have to coax myself into these kinds of things/endeavors. I am not one to quickly make up my mind and then just do it. Maybe I make excuses or procrastinate or maybe I’m just friggin’ tired.         This weekend I am at work. Depending on how busy I am, Monday will be my first day of attempting some sort of physical workout at home. I have a Yoga mat and I have some bands for resistance training and a Yoga ball and some core-strengthening exercises that my oncologist gave me last week. I have what I need to get started. Once I’ve gotten some stretching routines established (and I already walk) and some resistance work outs down I may eventually go (back) to a gym routine that pushes me harder and varies the workout so I’m not doing the same routine repeatedly. Right now, $ is tight, and it’s a blessing for me that the gov has rolled ahead the fed tax return date (as far as I’ve figured, IO) to mid July.         Right now I am avoiding spending any money unless it’s on food (from the grocery store) or other necessary things…like toilet paper 🙂  gas in the car and bills.    I have been trying to get some finances in order….I put as much as I can away in my Roth for the 2019 tax year and I hope to work throughout this year chipping away at my mortgage and putting some $ into an emergency fund (for a furnace that I will need at some time in the future or some other property issue, no doubt). Life goes on despite the dire news and the halt of daily life as we Americans have enjoyed over the decades.       OK…back to my book.

Share your world: 3/9/2020

SYW handmaprevisedMelanie B. “Share Your World” questions:

Are you a sweet, sour, tangy or other type of person?  Take that as you will! 😉  I wish you had listed other options. I am not sweet;  I can’t stomach “sweet”; I’m not tangy nor sour (although I can be sour at times). I guess I’d say I’m mild spice. No idea what that might be.

Does the whole coronavirus phenomenon worry you?  Or are you more a “meh – it’s just another severe flu scare” type of person? I do believe that there is much unnecessary “hype” – or, in other words, an over-abundance of the same information over and over and over, however, it is real, people do die and it is more contagious than the flu. I am NOT “worried” about it: one day I will die; it may be from an accident, an illness, old age or some other ‘thing’ but NOTHING is worth worrying about. Worry…doesn’t accomplish jack-all.

When was the last time you were snooping, and found something you wish you hadn’t? I don’t ‘snoop’ so I’ve never found anything I wish I hadn’t.

What’s the most pleasant sounding accent in your personal opinion?   Everyone has a pleasing accent to someone! British (I know there are many dialects and I don’t know them) and French.

Gratitude: Discovering that I sometimes ‘react’ from a place of fear which, on me, has the face of anger. The information came to my attention the same day I had an (internal) reaction to something someone said. It made a good day a little less good; I carried that baggage around until I realized what really happened. I am grateful that I had the ‘sense’ to sit and reflect on the situation and learn from it.

#FPQ 59

What does it mean to you in the 21st century to be well educated?

I’m not “well educated” nor am I an educator so this will be simple.

  1. Kindergarten for all five year olds that focus on exploration, curiosity, imagination, manual dexterity and the basics like counting, colors, shapes, manners, cooperation, following directions, socializing…all good things that are the foundation to future learning.
  2. Get rid of the over-simplifying education as if we are training dogs to do tricks. Humans vary in how they learn, what/how they see and interpret, speed of learning, etc. It’s understandable that we all should know how to count and recognize letters (not that anyone writes any more) but this ‘check the box’ style of teaching is not working.
  3. If a child isn’t grasping something then adaptation is needed on behalf of teachers and our educational system. There is much more involved with young people who are unable to grasp learning things such as poor home environment, poor diet, insufficient sleep, learning disabilities, mental/emotional (disorders) situations, etc. My children were grown before the whole “no child left behind” mantra so I’m not real familiar except the complaints I hear from others but that seems to have caused more problems than solutions. I’m also not holding our education system accountable for family issues, health issues, etc. but, since every child goes to school (or should) it’s a great filter for what is going on in our communities and could be addressed, if we really cared about education.
  4. Again, I’m not an educator but I am sure curious about how and what other first-world countries are doing that they supercede us in education. Why are we so afraid of taking some cues from countries that out-perform us? Oh, wait…that’s right, I forgot …we’re the best and greatest and strongest and richest country in the world.
  5. And finally – once we can get a handle on how to educate properly and thoroughly and adequately – we should definitely be pro-higher education and I’m going to include trade schools here also because I like to be able to find a plumber, electrician, carpenter, mechanic, etc. when I need one; a good one.

When we start believing that knowledge is power and an education is the way to get there – for most – a way to improve our whole society, then we’ll be willing to invest in our educational system.

Okay, this was longer than I intended but this is a sore spot with me: we don’t value knowledge as much as we value celebrity, sports, power, entertainment, wealth, and status. We don’t truly appreciate a well-rounded education because it’s been an avenue mostly for the elite and fortunate – not EVERYONE. The desire to learn and explore are not part of our early education so ‘school’ is just something to ‘get through’ before they start their real life…..

Okay…this post is basically garbage but I’m publishing it because I’ve spent time writing it.





So…after going days uninspired by any prompts or questions or even posts here in bloglandia, I’m just going to go brainstorming for this post.

My first weekend off – since my week of unusual business at work combined with a sinus (not infection) head cold and my cat of 16 years (amazingly healthy and happy though) suddenly needed to be euthenized – and I pretty much sat on my ass. I was disappointed in myself and I even told myself that but that didn’t change the outcome. I am not sure why: miserably cold outside, lingering fatigue from the week in conjunction with my idleness of late. At least that’s what I told myself. In addition, I knew I’d be with my granddaughter all day Monday so I guess I thought I’d just conserve my energy. I did get four loads of laundry done, and some very light house-cleaning.

Monday was a great day with my favorite kid.

Monday night I’m preparing for my work week and I’m thinking of the virus that’s spreading and some (my sister for one and her husband ,I’m sure, for two) think that it’s all hooey and the media is blowing it out of proportion and others are already hoarding paper good, masks, hand sanitizer, prepared foods, etc. so the shelves are depleted, if not empty, of supplies.

For me… I am facing it my usual pragmatic way. I work in a hospital so I’ll likely be in contact with patients who have acquired the virus and I may or may not acquire it myself. I may or may not develop COVID-19 and I may or may not die from it (I’m 57 so I’m in that ‘range’ of older victims but….I’m ‘healthy’ (no co-morbidities) and I’m female so, that’s my advantage). While I’m reflecting on the possibility of dying in the next few weeks, I’m trying to (in my mind, because I went to bed thinking about it) think of the immediate things I need to do; things I need to tell my children and also things I think might keep my from succumbing to this virus. No big AHA! stuff…just little ideas. And then, of course, I start thinking, “why the hell didn’t you think of this earlier? You could have spent the weekend preparing!

Now I’m back at work where I do all my thinking about what I need to do or want to do on my next days off and making my list. The Intranet (work-net) is full of virus information and a ‘team’ meeting via Zoom took place for an hour over lunch with the powers-that-be in the big house (DHMC). So much information that I can’t even remember most of it. Here’s the take-away in my words: be aware of all the things you do with your hands, things you touch – especially in public places –  and then wash them and avoid touching your face. Be aware of how close you stand or are near people and for how long – especially if they are coughing or sneezing or talking with you – keep your distance (six feet minimum). The CDC is trying to keep people from using masks in public (mostly because it’s not necessary and also because masks are in short supply and NEED to be used for infected people AND healthcare workers who NEED the masks to take care of sick people). Just using some common sense (as I write that I am reminded that there is a shortage of that also) is the best that any of us can do.

Am I worried? No. It’s just another thing in life to deal with – if it’s not this, it’s something else and, eventually, we all die anyway. I know, I know…Susie-Sunshine. Well, it’s true. No point getting all paranoid and skittish about it. Am I taking more than my usual precautions? Yes. I am more aware of who has a fever and (dry) cough, and short of breath and I use a mask (which I typically do anyway as my wheelhouse is dealing with people ill with respiratory infections). But – mostly – I am much more conscious of my hands, washing and avoiding touching my face.

In other KC news: I finished Malcolm Gladwell’s Talking To Strangers. Wow! That was a good audio (the audio version of the book includes real interviews and commentary as originally recorded) and it isn’t a book I’d have picked up without the incentive from my local community. A monthly Open Discussion Project is a new initiative by a handful of joined bookstores that encourages more real dialogue between groups of liberals and conservatives with moderators by professional facilitators to ensure respect. Malcolm Gladwell is the author of other best selling books such as The Tipping Point, David and Goliath, Blink, and Outliers. If you haven’t felt compelled to read/listen to Talking to Strangers, give it a try.