#SYW: 7/6/2020

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Melanie posts four or five different questions each week for you to answer.


In your opinion, what’s the closest thing to real magic?

When against all odds, something ‘goes’ right.

Where is the worst smelling place you’ve been?

Being in a room with a human being kept alive via “medicine” while the body is rotting from the inside out…literally.

What are some things that you’ve heard in your own life, which sounded like compliments but were actually insults?

Freshman year in high school, advanced English class, ‘instructor’ made some statement about (me) being surrounded by people holding up candles. He was a grossly obese, balding, old man who clearly suffered from an over-abundance of ego and I had no idea what he was talking about or why. I still don’t and I don’t care but it’s odd that I remember just that much.

What incredibly common thing have you never done?

Malign someone, carry out a vindictive act, steal anything, shoot someone, give in to road rage, be rude or disrespectful toward anyone without provocation, not worked for what I have, nor went to my HS prom.

Gratitude: Last Sunday afternoon, the guy, Sam, at the Apple Store was amazingly helpful and patient (almost two hours). He could have just told me that he couldn’t help me as the ‘problem’ wasn’t an Apple issue but a Verizon third-party phone insurance (Asurion) problem.


Questions from Melanie at sparksfromacombustiblemind posted once a week.

What do you think of professional motivational speakers?  Do you think they motivate?

I personally like motivational speeches or conversations or quotes or TEDTalks or podcasts. It’s not necessarily the speaker or the topic, it’s that I can gain/learn something from listening to the experiences or advice or accomplishments of other people. I’d rather listen to a ‘motivational speaker’ while driving (if I’m not absorbed in an audiobook) than listen to (more bad) news, or (depressing) current events, or (catastrophic) political information or (fucking crazy) talk-radio. Do I think they motivate? Well, of course. Some people are very motivated by “professional” speakers – thus the career/income and fame (Tony Robbins, Wayne Dyer, Louise Hay, even Oprah.) For me, listening to motivational (speakers) talks makes me feel better, more positive/hopeful and encouraged. It doesn’t have to motivate me to start my own business or become a billionaire – it’s just that it’s positive thoughts, positive energy and, even if these people are on a circuit generating income, they are enthusiastic and eager to share (something) good to/for other people. It’s better than the alternative. **addendum: I would never pay to ‘see’ a motivational speaker.

 Do you have a favorite flavor?

Fruit: pineapple; Pie: lemon; meat: bacon; vegetable: cucumber; Herb: rosemary or basil (depends on what it’s in/on); Beverage: beer/alcohol (depends on activity, weather and how much discomfort I’m willing to tolerate later…Corona with lime, Guinness, Wicked Orchard Crisp Apple, etc., etc.)

While out walking, you hear a rustling in some bushes.  What do you think of?


What’s your ideal temperature (nature-wise)?   Hot, cold, temperate and mild, humid or bone dry?

Ahh. My almost favorite topic. My moods and activities are guided by weather. My preference is autumn weather: 60-70s during the day, dry, slight breeze, and cooler at night (40-50s)


Share your world from Melanie at sparksfromacombustiblemind:


Is it ever okay to commit a crime?  

Yes, it sometimes okay to commit a crime: killing is a crime, however, if someone is threatening your life, ‘it’s okay to defend yourself’ and that may mean killing someone else. My BIL says, “kill them dead and then it’s only your word against a dead (man).”

Do you deal with change well?  

Depends on the change; change of jobs can be unnerving but if you hate where you are it’s worth it;  changing homes can be work but exhilarating; changing/getting a new car can be fun – basically I try to remain fluid to change since, as I’ve said, I control nothing.

Do you like birds?   The sound of bird song in the morning, taking pictures of them, as food?   

I feed the birds so I like to watch them, look up any I’m not already familiar with but I do not take pictures and I hate early morning bird “song”…they start at 4a.m.!!!

What’s the least used item of clothing you own?

Almost all of my clothes lately are ‘the least used’ because I’ve put on so much weight that only my ‘yoga’ pants and some stretch shorts still fit me (besides my worn-out, holey T-shirts)


If you care to share, what are you grateful for?  

I am grateful that I’ve had the energy to keep going with my outdoor work: garden, etc. and that my son does seem to enjoy agreeable to help me on his day off. I am grateful that I have a job that allows me to be able to buy what I want/need regarding DIY home projects and I am grateful that I have my own property despite the fact that it’s always in need of some a lot of repair. I’m especially grateful that the last few days have been cooler.


From Melanie; Memorial Day questions: MemorialDaySYW

In your opinion, does patriotism require the belief that one’s country is the greatest on earth?

No, Patriotism requires that you do the best within your ability to make your country as great a place to live as possible. Lying to oneself is foolish and, unless one wants an entire country to emulate foolishness, being open-minded and as honest as possible is the only way to improve. There is no perfect country.

Why is patriotism considered by some to be the highest of virtues?

Some believe patriotism to be the highest of virtues because they are narrow-minded, near-sighted, and possibly brainwashed by tradition/family, etc. If one loves one’s country but refuses to pay their fare share of taxes, does being patriotic supersede the selfish act (and is this person really patriotic?)? Or being a murderer? A child-molester? Manipulative liar? Not by me.

What is so important about love of country?

I think love of country is a form of loyalty; this is the land in which we  were born (or emigrated to out of desire) and continue to live; if we chose to stay then we should do our best to assist in being good citizens, good to our neighbors, and help to make our country great ~ but not in contrast to others, it’s not a contest, but a form of gratitude for what we have.

Shouldn’t we be more concerned about humankind, or the planet as a whole, rather than a single country? 

Patriotism and concern about all humankind (and the planet) are not mutually exclusive.

What is the relationship between decisions and consequences?

Newton’s third law of motion. It’s science, man.

What is social justice?

Rules or laws that promote, as a common denominator, what is good and healthy for all.

What’s one body part you wouldn’t mind losing?

Since I’ve already had my uterus and breasts removed (or “lost”) and I feel like I am sometimes losing my mind, I think I’ll pass on this.

Something that made me smile this past week was, believe it or not, the beauty of the trees against a blue sky and the aroma of springtime while enjoying a walk.

Share your world

From Melanie at sparksofacombustiblemind:

What can you break even if you don’t touch it?  (yes there is a real answer to this.  I’ll reveal it in the next week sometime.  Still, answer how you would like – no right or wrong answer) One can break a heart, a spirit or shatter a dream with mere words.

What’s the most useful thing you own? As much as I hate to admit it, probably my laptop: directions, email, movies, writing, reading, INFORMATION, banking, games (I don’t play them but I could), video (meetings or one-on-one ‘facetime’), ordering/buying, and probably a lot more that I don’t even know or do.

What’s The Silliest Reason You’ve Ever Gotten Into A Fight With Someone Over? I’m not a ‘fighter’ and I can’t think of anything silly that I may have fought with someone about but I will say; sometimes when we are angry and confrontational about something that seems silly, it’s really usually about something else entirely.  

If You Were A Snake, How Long Would You Want To Be?   No, size does not matter. 

I’d prefer to be ‘short’; the bigger the snake the more likely it is that people will want to fuck with it.


SYW Artic IceThis is me reading and writing to avoid going and doing something else that I really should do but I don’t want to.

From Melanie at sparksfromacombustiblemind:

What do you do to get rid of stress? You’re going to think I’m lying but I can’t remember the last time I felt stressed. I think I have finally, FINALLY come to the point in my life where I know death is closer than further away, that I can’t control anything except how I react to it, that flexibility with ‘expectations’ (or no expectations) reduces disappointment and that life is merely a learning experience. Anytime I start to feel stress or frustration or anxiety I try to remember all or any of these that apply. It always works.

In the past people were buried with the items they would need in the afterlife, what would you want buried with you so you could use it in the afterlife? 1. I hope there is no “afterlife” where anything I have would be of use, 2. If I can’t be ‘lost’, I want to be cremated, 3. If you really want an answer… I’d like to be wearing comfortable clothes, preferably my fleece ‘lounge’ pants and a fleece top.

What’s the opposite of a koala?  (this is strictly for fun.  I know what I came up with as an answer, but it was nonsensical.   Alaok.  See?   It’s okay to pass on this one too if you want). I think that Suze has the exact opposite of a koala here on her post. Ugh.

What’s the creepiest tech out there?  (My interpretation of “tech” is app or program.  If you know what “tech” is supposed to mean, hey!  Great!   Educate us).  I don’t have a creepy tech/app/program. I am sure that they exist and that the FBI or other agencies are monitoring them.


What method are you using to find your smile right now?   Please explain in detail so others might utilize the same ideas.   Some bloggers have shared a daily (weekly sometimes) method that they are using to keep their spirits up right now.   I’d love to hear from anyone who does and is successful at it!    Have a great week and stay safe!

I have initiated an Everyday is a Second Chance challenge that others are welcome to participate in and I am not yet smiling because no one has rose to the challenge. Seriously though, it’s up to you but I am trying to make myself do things that help me feel that I am not wasting my covid time and, by posting about it, it keeps me accountable to someone no one. Also…I have started a serious garden project. I’ll say more about that/this in another post.     *Still not smiling but not frowning either 😐



#SYW questions from Melanie

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What harsh truths do you prefer to ignore? Mmmmm….I can’t think of any “harsh truths” that I prefer to ignore…It may be that I’m accustomed to harsh reality from infancy and I mostly SEE harsh reality. The closest I can come to ‘ignoring a truth’ is when I deliberately ignore rude people but that’s just because I’ve found it more beneficial to my own health to pretend that willfully rude remarks, for example, are not my business nor I will I allow them to change my reality or mood or character. Don’t give other people the power over you.

Is free will real or just an illusion? Well, Melanie, you’re really digging deep here. There’s a saying, “Nothing is free.” The only ‘free will’ that I can foresee when all other liberties and freedoms are stripped away is the freedom to think what I want. Maybe that’s not what you intend? 

What is the meaning of true love? How a dog feels toward its ‘person’. 

reminder: try something new…

From Melanie at sparksfromacombustiblemind:

When was the last time you tried something new? A few months ago I got a new mattress and a few weeks ago I tried a new appetizer while dining out.

If you were forced to eliminate every physical possession from your life with the exception of what could fit into a single backpack, what would you put in it? Interesting question: …I’d have to choose my tent, sleeping bag, heating cannister/burner, wood matches/lighter, wool socks, down jacket, raincoat, change of clothes, cap/wool hat, sunglasses, bandana, fleece, gloves, rope, knife, eating utensils, collapsing plate/bowl, inflating mattress, phone, cord & jump charger, wallet contents, toothbrush, micro-cloth, CamelBak, extra bottle, & anything else that I’ve carried and can’t remember right now.

What simple fact do you wish more people understood? We are all meant to be unique individuals sharing our gifts/talents and the differences between us do not diminished anyone else’s significance.

What food item do you go through fastest in your house? coffee

Gratitude: for the opportunity to write…here.

a few answers in ShareYourWorld

Melanie has some new questions for us to answer and get to know each other a little more and here they are:

What age would you like to live to? If I am healthy, financially (and physically) independent and ‘happy’, 80 years sounds like enough.

What mystery do you wish you knew the answer to? John responded that he’d like to know what happens after death so I’ll go with: where’s Noah’s Ark, the Ark of the Covenant, how/why were the Nazca lines in Peru created, how/why the Easter Island statues, is there really anything supernatural about the Bermuda Triangle? Any one of those please.

Does absolute power corrupt absolutely? Absolutely.

What outdoor activity haven’t you tried, but would like to? I can’t think of an outdoor activity that I’d like to do; I’ve either done them or I don’t want to…oh, wait! I’d like to have a (high-powered) telescope and observe the universe/galaxy/milky-way…whatever I can see out there!!

Share your world: answers


Why do we have such trouble telling our loved ones that we love them?  Do you have that kind of communication issue with your loved ones?

I tell my loved ones that I love them but it’s a quick “love you” in saying “good-bye” – not the sincere, look in their eyes and really mean it saying “I love you”…I believe this is because I didn’t hear it – ever – growing up, no hugs either. So I am a little uncomfortable with ‘touchy-feely’ emotions.

        Above question inspired by this short, poignant blog post:


Decorations for holidays?   Spirit lifters or pain in the butt?   Or a mix?

No decorations. Not a fan of spending my hard earned money for a misleading, cultural “holy-day”

Do you donate to charities?  Of your time, do you feel money is the only true gift, or other?  (nod to Rory for this idea)

Sometimes. I have no ‘routine’ about donating…although sometimes I think I should.

Are you too superstitious or  have you ever played with a Ouija Board?

I’m not superstitions and I’ve only played with a Oiija board many lifetimes ago as a child at a sleepover.

SYW: Share your world.